The mysterious Island man is "Got to be outdoors."
I met him thru a girlfriend who was certain we'd be perfect together. Now we've been dating (off and on) for a very long time, and at a very long distance. He lives on an Island in the Puget Sound, and I live in the great state of Idaho.
It's 500 miles from my door to his ferry.
Actually, the Off-and-on part can be a trick to keep track of. Whether we are currently an item, or recently broken-up, we always have this wonderful friendship that I like a lot.
He is interesting and intellectual, and strong, and fun. He has this larger-than-life personality (which could half explain the dynamics we have!) He loves my boys almost as much as he loves me. He is really a great guy to date OR to be broken up with!
Dating is designed for teenagers. So are all those books about "courting" or whatever we want to call it. If you've reading this from the comfort of your marriage, allow me to explain. It is impossible to date without teenage dramatics. I've tried!
Remember these thoughts: "does this dress make me look fat? I think I'm getting a zit! does he like me? will he call?"
I fall in love, and I'm euphoric....He makes me mad, and I cry my eyes out. He doesn't call, and I'm sure he hates me. I see myself as fat and undesirable, or beautiful and svelte, depending on little more than a glance from him.
It's all those things you wish for when you've been married for a decade: the Passion, the Thrill, the uncertainty, holding hands, a kiss in the moonlight....okay, maybe it's not so bad!
Maybe it isn't designed for teenagers... But, I think what I am trying to say is that all those bizarre emotions and annoying behaviors evident in grown-ups who are dating, are just fall-out from the process.
My goal is to be careful and prudent. I would that my dating process display my dependence upon God. Each decision is made with a great deal of emotion, but also a lot of prayer.
Chuck (aka Got2boutdoors) is very prayerful as well.
Whether we end up married, or not, I thank God for him. He has added so much joy and beauty to my life. He has taught me so many new things. He has blessed my boys and me more than words can tell.
I'll keep you posted on any new developments!
4 comments:
Ha! I totally read "got 2 bout doors" which didn't make any sense!
I am reading from the comfort of my long-distance marriage and I can say that there is NO WAY IN HELL that I would ever want to date. We never had the "dating" experience, but we got the crazy emotions and I would never want to go back to that. Sure, the moonlight kisses are good, but that's not at all what it's about. So, I'm glad you've opted to ditch that silliness (most of the time, because you've gotta admit that we all fall prey to the romance ideal on occasion) and think honestly about your relationship.
Well, obviously, I assumed it was Chuck. I just had to be sure.
I like him even more now. Here's why:
1. He reads your blog. (Asia never reads mine.)
2. He calls you dearest.
Someday I simply must meet this man... Really.
You know, he doesn't always call me "dearest"....usually it's "beautiful" or 'Gorgeous." How can you beat that?
Charles calls me poopoo head sometimes. Beat that!
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