May I just say for the record that Dead Beat Dads should be publicly flogged? May I say that? If the Dead beat dad in my world would actually pay what he ought to, my children and I would have a very different life. I was thinking about this just the other day. I don't usually think about it, because receiving child support is about as likely as me sprouting a moustache.
However, I was thinking about the $50,000 or so that I am owed. Maybe it's a bit more, maybe a bit less. That's a lot.
You know what you can do it you are a dead beat dad? You can get a driver's license and get government grants, and go back to school and reinvent yourself. Lots of government programs will help you and everyone will be so proud of your sobriety and they will pat you on the back. Doesn't it sound lovely?
I suggested to the person in question that he go to work doing something, anything, so that he can contribute to his children's support. He patiently explained that it is about him right now, and his recovery, and doing what is good for him. He needs a satisfying career that will make him happy. Clearly I misunderstood. All this time I have been thinking that it was all about doing what is right, and fullfilling responsibilities, and serving others.
I am not often given to bitterness, probably because I don't have the time. But this particularly galls me.
3 comments:
eeeek !!!
that sucks.
can I say sucks on the blog???
my dad was a dead beat and it wasn't until after the last one of his children was old enough to take care of themselves (and our very own families) that he finally "found himself".
Don't that beat all???
my advice: get over the $50,000. you'll probably never see it in your life time
at least you have the boys, and that's the most important thing in the world that no amount of money can match.
Diedre's sister was in a similar situation and she pulled every legal trick there was to make that swine's life miserable and responsible for the upkeep of his child. In the end she had destroyed her health, mentally and physically, and crippled her spiritual life.
It is the responsibility of the church to see to the care of those whom have no other resource (not politically correct in this culture!). And beyond that God promises to see to our needs.
There are no easy answers in this culture, that is for sure. I would think Idaho has a department of Social Service or similar, tasked with enforcing garnishments, etc - no matter the state he may move to or how well he attempts to hide assests.
But no matter what you do - please do not allow a seed of resentment or anger in your heart over this, turn it over to God and a case worker, then walk away. It is a tragic road to walk when you do not..... And pretty hard on the kids as well.
Patti stole my words, because all I can say is 'that sucks.'
Think though, of how deeply you understand God's provision. If you know who had been paying you all those years, you'd not have that knowledge.
You are SUCH a testimony to God's care for us, and I deeply admire your ability to face adversity with such joy. Seriously. I want to be just like you.
Still, he sucks.
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