I've been complaining a lot. It's a whiny sort of snivel because I am tired, or broke, or otherwise discontent. It's quite annoying.
There's some unpleasantness about me, to be sure.
My situation hardly warrants displeasure, though. What's the big deal, after all? Is it that I'm tired? Why, that's only because I chose to stay up late on the phone to a man who loves me. Am I busy? That's because I'm working, though so many others would wish for a job. Is my house messy? That's due to the two delightful blessings who are living here while I am out in the world. See? I need to keep a Pollyanna spin on things. It's about perspective, and gratitude.
Kara was over last night. That girl offers me tremendous encouragement. She's patient with my moods, and she can give that kind of insight that only a very old friend can.
I have a tendency to be entirely black or white. Things and people are good, or they are bad. It's painfully difficult for my mind to allow for dichotomy in situations or people. I'm like a five-year-old in that way. And I over-think everything. It's very fun to be me.
Mostly I'm in a bit of a slump. It's from that random careening thru my days. My choleric self needs a plan. My finances are stressed, my time is overwhelmed, and I am uncertain of the future. This requires me to work hard on the moment, and not to look very far ahead. I hate that. Do you suppose it's good for me?
Now I'm complaining again.
Let's change the subject, shall we?
In dating, do you think the girl should play hard to get? I am finding that I am utterly devoid of guile, in love. Tim's delightful, and I tell him so.
Conventional wisdom would seem to advise a bit of game playing, but it's not really my style. You bait the hook, set the hook, and reel 'em in. That sounds like a ton of duplicity.
Tim was my friend, and I fell for him. Once he voiced interest in me, I reciprocated, and set to worshiping the ground he walks on. Is that bad?
I was reading a book at work, the other day, that was applying the art of seduction, to business. It was advising just this sort of manipulation. The author assumed that the game was well known to his readers. I, of course, realized my inadequacy at once. I put the book down immediately.
It seems to me unwise to use artful entrapment in a romantic relationship. Either he will like me for, well, me. Or he won't. If he doesn't like the real me, why would I want to end up stuck with him? Neither one of us would be very happy in the long run.
Well, then.
Have a lovely day, friends.
2 comments:
oh please. the art of seduction, entrapment, or whatever you call it, isn't always a manipulative game. People can make it into one, true--but the bottom line is, sometimes men do get comfortable having someone worshiping the ground they walk on. Sometimes they won't move forward in a relationship. I've seen it. You've seen it. Everyone's seen it.
The wise old adage is sometimes true, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free"
(and fyi-the milk does not mean a sexual relationship all the time, either)
Just my perspective.
And did you just call Kara old?
lol
~paj
Well, the way of the world is to "date" and to play "games". To see what is in "it" for you.
God's way is to the exact opposite. You are you and your desire is to share your and their lives - in all aspects. Hence, in this case, the need for friends and family with discernment and wisdom.
Because you would be blending families, you also have to take into consideration your children. Will he is a godly influence or a worldly influence? Will he mentor your boys into manhood? Can he take the teenage attitudes from a young man he is little history with? The same for his daughter and you.
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